Subconscious
The psychological component of erotic fantasies may indicate that a person is dissatisfied with his sex life. However, this is a superficial opinion and is not necessarily correct. Dreams should be interpreted depending on the situation:
- seeing a connection between a man and a woman is a signal that the body wants to receive sexual release;
- To dream of yourself having sex with someone you know is a sign that you have unresolved issues. You may see one of your friends or a work colleague. It is not at all necessary that such a fantasy indicates that you want to enter into a relationship with him. Rather, it indicates that there is a problematic situation that requires the participation of this person. Solve all existing issues, and dreams will stop bothering you;
- in some cases, intimacy suggests that you are experiencing feelings of guilt, shame or doubt about the person who was present in your vision. Analyze your attitude towards him in order to understand what problem is haunting you;
- if in a dream a woman acts as a man in sexual intercourse, it means that in reality she is trying to interfere in matters that should not concern her. Perhaps she works in a male position or makes decisions that are usually trusted only to the stronger sex;
- seeing that a woman performs a dominant function and does not listen to her partner’s opinion is a sign that things are not going well in her personal life. It is possible that you do not experience satisfaction not only in sex, but also in other areas. Feelings of disappointment can lead to separation from a lover or dismissal from work;
- if a woman dreams of intimacy with another woman, this may indicate a lack of attention to her own needs. Treat yourself to a vacation or visit a beauty salon.
What causes erotic dreams?
Most often, to understand whether a dream is good or bad, you just need to remember the emotions that it caused. As a rule, if you wake up with a smile and regret that the dream is over, according to psychologists, you have some kind of hidden desire. Moreover, it is not at all necessary that it comes from the realm of sexual fantasies.
If, on the contrary, there are bad, difficult emotions left from the dream, a certain disgust - this is also a reason to delve into your life. It is possible that somewhere there remains an unresolved conflict situation, which is now emerging in this way.
Erotic dream
- It is believed that most often in such a dream a person sees a situation in which he is either subjected to violence or carries it out himself. Here, too, you should not look for an erotic background, but simply understand: in the first case, you are trying to throw off any bonds that bind you, in the second, most likely you are dissatisfied with your life, you are tired of a lot.
- An erotic scene in a dream in front of a crowd of spectators again speaks of a certain dissatisfaction with something, and again - this dissatisfaction is unlikely to concern intimate life.
- Self-satisfaction in a dream can indicate low self-esteem, and in this case you just need to try to look at yourself as a stranger, from the outside - who knows how many positive qualities you will discover in yourself.
- A girl’s dream of lesbian love does not mean that her orientation is unconventional; rather, such a dream indicates a lack of warmth and tenderness in the relationship. It is also possible that the girl sees in her partner not just a sexual partner, but the personification of those qualities that she herself strives to possess.
- Did you suddenly change gender in a dream? Is it possible that in reality you perform functions that are unusual for you? Or are you striving for it? For example, a guy always wondered what it was like to cross-stitch, and a girl always wanted to fly along a fast track behind the wheel of a racing car.
- If you dreamed about an unfamiliar partner, you just want variety, but if, on the contrary, you are an acquaintance, and moreover, your ex, there can be a double interpretation. It is possible that somewhere in the depths of your soul you remember him. However, not necessarily with the goal of renewing the relationship. Maybe it’s just some pleasant moments experienced together that come to mind, or maybe there’s something left unsaid in your relationship.
- If you dream of an unpleasant person in the role of your sexual partner, it is likely that he is endowed with some qualities that you would like to see in yourself. After all, it often happens that we are irritated in others by what is not given to us.
- If in a dream something prevents you from realizing your sexual desires, this is a transformation of your unfulfilled plans in reality.
People's dream book
The classical interpreter gives the following definitions of what is seen in a dream:
- seeing sex that occurs with some deviations from generally accepted norms, or clearly unhealthy fantasies - in itself may not mean anything. But the recurring nature of dreams signals the presence of serious mental trauma;
- you have been sexually assaulted - are actually unhappy with the people around you. You believe that your words are not listened to and you are not appreciated;
- not achieving pleasure after the act - in reality, do not expect to be able to achieve your goals. Lack of ambition and laziness will hinder you;
- to see yourself without clothes in the company of clothed people - not so long ago you committed a bad act that haunts you. You need to tell someone about this and correct what you did;
- if you are prevented from entering into an intimate relationship, it is extremely important for you to receive approval from loved ones about the person you have chosen as a partner;
- to see an erotic dream with the participation of parents - in the real world you constantly need the support of more experienced people;
- if in a dream you are involved in group sex, this is a bad sign. You need to beware of people who can drag you into a dubious enterprise. In the future, this can lead to financial ruin, so beware of scammers.
Sex with a star
Intimacy with idols is a popular erotic fantasy. But what if you dreamed of sex with a star you're indifferent to? Why did this particular person penetrate your subconscious and bed (even if not in reality)?
“Celebrities in dreams often reflect a thirst for recognition of some of our merits, efforts or abilities,” says How seriously should you take your sex dreams? somnologist and author of books on the meaning of dreams, Laurie Levenberg. - Ask yourself: “What first comes to mind in connection with this star?” Song? Perhaps the answer lies in its name. Movie or TV series? It’s possible that you identify with the character or draw parallels between the plot and your life.”
Levenberg cites the example of a client of his who dreamed about sex with Lenny Kravitz, although she was never a fan of his. When the name was mentioned, the woman’s first thought was the dystopia “The Hunger Games.”
It turned out that she was desperately trying to lose weight, but no one noticed her efforts and modest success. Then the subconscious used the image that Lenny played in the film to warn: achieving the target weight can only be done at the cost of giving up food. Fortunately, the expert managed to convince his ward: health is more valuable!
Freud's Dream Book
According to the famous psychoanalyst, seeing yourself having sex is a sign that you are dissatisfied in the real world. Dissatisfaction does not necessarily concern the personal sphere. Freud believed that a person needs to throw out negativity through intimacy. Discharge allows you to take a fresh look at the situation and find the right solution.
If you do not receive satisfaction in the real world, the subconscious mind projects intimacy into dreams. Romantic and tender contact tells a woman that she is thinking a lot about some man, but has not yet taken a step towards him. At the same time, it is worth taking the initiative so as not to succumb to vain fantasies.
Some erotic visions involve cheating, violence, or some other thing that you wouldn't allow in reality. Freud proposed to interpret each of these fantasies depending on the personality type of a particular person. Most often, what is seen indicates the presence of certain complexes or subconscious fears. You should spend more time getting rid of stress and try to let some things take their course. Look at the world differently, because you risk being forever mired in the abyss of discontent and unhappiness.
Why do you have erotic dreams: a physiological explanation
As we know, dreams have fast and deep phases. So, according to the observations of experts, erotic dreams come to us during the fast phase, when there is a high probability of increased blood pressure, including in the genital area. Thus, their sensitivity increases, which often leads to sexually charged pictures appearing in dreams.
Physiologists also noted the connection between erotic dreams and the fact that a person falls asleep while lying on his stomach. Thus, he receives less air and breathing becomes somewhat difficult, as, in fact, during sexual intercourse. The body's reaction may also be similar.
Physiological explanation
The cause may also be an increased level of testosterone in the body. This applies to both men and women. Experiments were also conducted to determine the appearance of erotic dreams depending on the content of aphrodisiac aromas in the air. So, it was found that the aromas of bergamot, sandalwood, and rosemary are especially active in promoting the emergence of such piquant dreams.
Miller's Dream Book
According to Miller's interpretation, such dreams are directly related to how things are going in your personal life in reality. Seeing sexual intercourse taking place from the outside means there are serious problems. Most likely, you rely too much on what you see on your TV screens. Stop comparing celebrities' personal lives or how intimacy is portrayed in movies to your own. You find fault with your loved one excessively, which prevents you from simply enjoying each other's company. This prevents you from creating a strong relationship or family.
To dream that you are enjoying sexual intercourse means that you are actually satisfied with what is happening in your life. Your relationship is stable, you are loved by your significant other and everything is going great for you. A dream in which you feel shame or dissatisfaction should alert you. In this case, things don’t work out for you and problems pile up one after another. Most likely, you are experiencing difficulties at work and do not know how to solve them.
Why do we have erotic dreams: what do psychologists say?
And psychologists are sure that such dreams do not indicate any problems in intimate life. The fact is that moral principles in real life often suppress our innermost desires; we are embarrassed to admit them even to ourselves. Another thing is a dream in which we have no control over our thoughts and desires. A dream removes all taboos, and in the form of erotic pictures we see our unrealized aspirations embodied in their images, the urgent need for some kind of change.
About dreams
And yet, according to soul experts, the appearance of a handsome prince in an erotic dream indicates that you are in search of your soulmate and subconsciously draw your image of her. Moreover, you are ready for both physical and emotional contact with your prince. Thus, the subconscious mind tells you that it’s time to act and take steps towards your dream.
So, an erotic dream is not necessarily literal. This is just a sexually charged reason to think about what exactly is bothering us and start solving the problem.
Tsvetkov's Dream Interpretation
According to the esotericist, seeing yourself in bed with a former lover is a bad sign. This promises you failures and difficulties in various areas of life. After such a dream, you should postpone all your plans for a more appropriate time. You should expect difficulties both in your personal sphere and in business.
The dream encourages you not to give in to emotions and think through every step. Otherwise, you can make mistakes that will ruin your life for a long time.
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Gender differences
To the weaker sex, sex in a dream appears in an unusually pleasant, wonderful way.
As a result, some women become truly dependent on him: sex in reality ceases to satisfy them. Over time, these women may refuse to have actual intimate contacts—so cumbersome, with bad breath, sweating, and panting. And not with Prince Charming! And the frequency and variety of sexual dreams begin to increase. And even while awake, women live with memories of the wonderful sensations they experienced. They lose the ability to experience orgasm in reality, and as a result they are considered frigid. For men, such dependence on sexual visions is not so scary. For them, sex in a dream is most often not much different from the real thing, and it happens mainly among young men. But don't worry about ejaculating while you sleep. This is a natural hormonal process that is in no way harmful to the body or the psyche and does not indicate any violations. Although men experience orgasm during sleep more often than women, as they age, they have less and less sexual dreams.
But regarding the female sleepy orgasm, the opinions of scientists are divided. Some researchers tend to believe that 30% of women experience orgasm during sleep. Moreover, they believe that female orgasm during sleep, unlike male orgasm, does not depend on the woman’s sexual activity while awake. But some sexologists do not believe in these figures; they believe that objective research is hampered by... education. Some ladies tend to hide what they do in their sleep, while some, on the contrary, tend to exaggerate. In the latter case, there may be an element of boasting, a desire to rub the nose of girlfriends.
Sexual violence
Dreams in which the dreamer acts as a victim of sexual violence or the rapist himself occur quite often.
- In the first case, when a person is a victim, the dream indicates the presence of pathological fears, phobias hiding in the depths of the subconscious. Also, such dreams indicate the dreamer’s desire to get rid of these fears.
- In the second case, dreams indicate the impossibility of realizing one’s own life potential and dissatisfaction with life in general. A person should understand himself and his relationships with his immediate environment.
According to scientists from various fields, dreams are such a little-studied and subtle substance that they can only be interpreted down to the smallest detail if deep psychoanalysis is applied to this process.
Despite more accurate interpretations, any dreams with erotic content indicate the dreamer's dissatisfaction with his intimate life. Sometimes such dreams also indicate that a person has secret sexual fantasies, which are extremely difficult to realize in reality.
If there was rape in the dream
In the dream, did you play the role of a spectator? You worry too much about those who are almost impossible to help.
If you were raped in a dream, it's time to take steps to combat stress. The dream confirms the complexity of your life situation and your moral exhaustion . Immediately arrange a rest or relaxation session for yourself so that nightmares no longer bother you.
People often have dreams where the rapist had a mask on his face. It should be regarded as a warning . You are a very useful person, so people will certainly want to manipulate you. Don't give in to avoid getting into trouble!
Did you play the role of a rapist in the dream? At the moment you are tormented by anger and anger. Continue to calm the raging negativity and learn to let it out safely so as not to harm yourself.
An intimate relationship dreamed by a man
If in a dream you were in the abyss of passion with a young lady, in reality you will be overcome by a wave of thirst for novelty. You will definitely want new impressions or love adventures. And those who seek will definitely find !
An intimate relationship with an adult woman is a harbinger of unexpected business proposals. A new place of work, organizing a business - that’s what this means. If you had fun in such a sexy dream, in reality you can agree to earn money in a new way without hesitation.
You may also dream of a rather interesting plot, where the woman from the dream cheated on her husband with you. Exercise caution if this sounds like your nightly dreams. Sloppy actions in order to make money will lead to a bad outcome .
